A Biblical Basis for the 7 Traits of Effective Parenting.
Heartbroken parents recently called on my wife and me, asking for help. Their son was in trouble with the law and facing jail time. As we sat in their family room, we talked, grieved and prayed together. They are Christian parents who love God but found themselves in a painful situation. “How did this happen?” they asked, as many parents have asked before.
After years of comforting and supporting families through hard circumstances, I know that this teen’s life-changing decision wasn’t where everything went wrong. The real problem began much earlier. His poor decision represented many soul-forming choices over the years that left him unprepared for the moment when his character was truly tested.
Counteracting bad decisions
For centuries Christian parents have taught that virtue counteracts vice and that learning how to make good decisions replaces our habit of making bad decisions. This tried-and-true approach to overcoming the allure of poor decision-making can still work today.
After all, bad habits are easy. When relying solely on human nature, children will make selfish and shortsighted decisions. The habit of making good decisions, though, has to be deliberately built into our home life so our children have the tools they need to make wise decisions. Simply learning to share as a young child can begin a pattern of selflessness that can last years into adulthood.